A friend asked this question on Facebook.
As someone who has grown to loathe the world of male dominance over women, catching a glimpse of what’s come from the dominance of males in society throughout, and as someone who’s most definitely perpetuated some of these fucked up power dynamics in various relationships and interactions throughout my own life and being on a journey to undo that shit in my own being, my immediate emotional flares went off as is sometimes the case in this imperfectly human meat suit within civilization (is this a run-on sentence yet?!?!). Fucking breathe David.
Aaah okay much better. If you took a deep breath with me, good shit. And if not, I feel you. But I digress…
Is Male Dominance Natural?
My friend’s page probably has the most interesting comments so despite wanting to type furiously about 10 things at once, I generally try to start by reading.
Here’s one no answer and one yes answer from the comments:
You didn’t expect a simple answer did you?:
Speaking of defining terms…
One time I took a fair amount of LSD and realized that a lot of what people argue over are definitions and surface considerations. Peel back the layers and get to the substance and you might find a lot more consensus or understanding.
I think it would be helpful to clarify what’s meant by “male dominance”. My friend is often vague and I get the sense that he does this on purpose to stir the pot!
Assuming (hopefully not making an ass out of us all) that we’re talking about dominance of the male sex over the female sex in humans and whether that’s a natural, reasonable, or healthy trait for our species, wouldn’t it make sense to look at our closest relatives in the natural kingdom? An astute commentor wrote:
Or maybe even better yet we could look at early human cultures before things got all complicated with television, America, and Reddit.
Nature is a obviously a rough beast and the only way to survive millions of years as a species was to work together. Cooperation is deeply coded in our DNA, like it is with the higher primates and other animals, and it’s definitely reflected in healthy cultures throughout history.
It seems like cultures pertaining to monarchy, empire, and colonization are the ones where men dominate women the most, and inherently seem the ones most violent and destructive for our species and our planet.
So we’ll see what becomes of the era of patriarchy and male dominance when we’re able to look back 500 years down the road, but I get the feeling that it will not look pretty on us.
That’s just my two cents and I’m still learning/unlearning forming new opinions, but I think in order to heal this planet and ourselves we will need a balance of all the energies, not dominance of one over the other.